Post by jasong on Jun 29, 2018 12:11:39 GMT
"Do you think he'll remember me?" "I don't know Ma.." "I'll remember him.."
"You know, Dorothy, people think if you live to be my age, you should be grateful just to be alive. Well, that's not how it works. You need a reason to get up in the morning. And sometimes even after you find one, life can turn right around and spit in your face."
- Sophia
I've written about this episode in previous posts on the forums but I have not dissected this episode, for a reason, its not that I didn't want to do, but because I struggled to come up with words to write down, so this one wont be like other dissections I have written about because I knew the episode inside and out. But this one, this one is special because in life you are dealt that unfair hand and that sometimes it does need to be said and read and talked about, because if you hold something close to you can make that effort to talk about it..
This episode means so much to me because I lost a grandmother to Alzheimer's disease and I watched her battle for years and doctors saying that she'll have her good and bad days and knowing that it wont be the same person you've known and been around for years. I remember the final time I saw her was a week before she died, she didn't remember me, she didn't know who I was, but she said to me "You seem like a nice man.." and that's when your heart sinks you know.. When someone doesn't recognise you anymore..
No one can say caring for someone with dementia or Alzheimer's is easy. In fact when a person forgets who you are it is devastating and it is hard for anyone who knows a family who is around someone who is losing who they are. And this episode pulls the heart strings because Sophia befriends a man named Alvin, whom she doesn't know is suffering from the disease until the very end when Dorothy tells Sophia that he is ill and on his way to New York because his daughter can no longer look after him.
The other part of the episode is the Fernando hostage thing and a young girl scout blackmailing Blanche and Dorothy into buying her gifts such as a bike, but changes her mind for money but in a twist of karma Rose shows how its done. While Rose shows them how its really done and takes the bear back while shoving the scout out of the house and giving the world a gif they'll use for years to come. Those parts of the episode are a good part of such a emotional episode.
The memorable moment from this episode is Sophia and Dorothy having a talk about Alvin (And if you watch closely Bea reaches out and touches Estelle's chin, a great little thing to notice.). Dorothy explains how she had a talk with Alvin's daughter and how she took a leave of absence from her job to take care of him and how they may have to send him to New York (In the end he does end up going) so the son (who is a doctor) can help look after him, Sophia trying to knit a scarf goes off and says that should be long enough to make a scarf in that time.
What is great about the episode and its ending is the how the camera pans out on the chair on that boardwalk, that those memories made by Alvin and Sophia over the course of "In show" months are still there, those events we didn't get to see.
Another thing that's sad about this episode is that Estelle Getty more then a decade later would be diagnosed with lewy body dementia and pass away from the disease in 2008. That also makes it harder to watch this episode now as well.
Also.... GET BACK THE DAMN BEAR...
"You know, Dorothy, people think if you live to be my age, you should be grateful just to be alive. Well, that's not how it works. You need a reason to get up in the morning. And sometimes even after you find one, life can turn right around and spit in your face."
- Sophia
I've written about this episode in previous posts on the forums but I have not dissected this episode, for a reason, its not that I didn't want to do, but because I struggled to come up with words to write down, so this one wont be like other dissections I have written about because I knew the episode inside and out. But this one, this one is special because in life you are dealt that unfair hand and that sometimes it does need to be said and read and talked about, because if you hold something close to you can make that effort to talk about it..
This episode means so much to me because I lost a grandmother to Alzheimer's disease and I watched her battle for years and doctors saying that she'll have her good and bad days and knowing that it wont be the same person you've known and been around for years. I remember the final time I saw her was a week before she died, she didn't remember me, she didn't know who I was, but she said to me "You seem like a nice man.." and that's when your heart sinks you know.. When someone doesn't recognise you anymore..
No one can say caring for someone with dementia or Alzheimer's is easy. In fact when a person forgets who you are it is devastating and it is hard for anyone who knows a family who is around someone who is losing who they are. And this episode pulls the heart strings because Sophia befriends a man named Alvin, whom she doesn't know is suffering from the disease until the very end when Dorothy tells Sophia that he is ill and on his way to New York because his daughter can no longer look after him.
The other part of the episode is the Fernando hostage thing and a young girl scout blackmailing Blanche and Dorothy into buying her gifts such as a bike, but changes her mind for money but in a twist of karma Rose shows how its done. While Rose shows them how its really done and takes the bear back while shoving the scout out of the house and giving the world a gif they'll use for years to come. Those parts of the episode are a good part of such a emotional episode.
The memorable moment from this episode is Sophia and Dorothy having a talk about Alvin (And if you watch closely Bea reaches out and touches Estelle's chin, a great little thing to notice.). Dorothy explains how she had a talk with Alvin's daughter and how she took a leave of absence from her job to take care of him and how they may have to send him to New York (In the end he does end up going) so the son (who is a doctor) can help look after him, Sophia trying to knit a scarf goes off and says that should be long enough to make a scarf in that time.
What is great about the episode and its ending is the how the camera pans out on the chair on that boardwalk, that those memories made by Alvin and Sophia over the course of "In show" months are still there, those events we didn't get to see.
Another thing that's sad about this episode is that Estelle Getty more then a decade later would be diagnosed with lewy body dementia and pass away from the disease in 2008. That also makes it harder to watch this episode now as well.
Also.... GET BACK THE DAMN BEAR...